भूताची गोष्ट

एक मुलगी असते, तिचं नाव असतं सखू. तर हि सखू असते ना, ती एकदम मस्तीखोर मुलगी असते.

तिला गावभर हिंडायला, झाडावर चढायला आणि शेतावर फिरायला जायला आवडत असतं.

एकदा ती गावाबाहेरच्या आमराईतल्या झाडावर चढत असते…

आंब्याच्या झाडावर बरं का… तेव्हा तिला एक अशी मस्त फांदी मिळते कि तिथेच बसून रहावसं वाटतं.

तिकडून तिला मस्त गावात येणाऱ्या-जाणाऱ्या लोकांची-गाड्यांची वर्दळ दिसत असते.

बघता बघता तिला त्या मस्त रुंद फांदीवर बसून, गार सावलीत झोप लागते.

किती वेळ जातो कोणास ठाऊक, तिला एकदम जाग येते तेव्हा काळा ठिक्कर अंधार पडला असतो.

रात्रीचे किती वाजले असतात ते कळायला मार्ग नसतो.

ती झाडावरून उतरायला लागते, तेव्हा समोरच्या पिंपळाच्या झाडावरून तिला कोणीतरी बोलावतं.

बघते तर तिचा लहापाणीचा मित्र असतो, जो त्या रस्त्यावर एका accident मध्ये मेला असतो.

तिला कळतं कि तो नाही, त्याचं भूत आहे.

मग ती जरा घाबरते, पण तशीच उतरते झाडावरून.

खाली येऊन बघते तर हा भिडू पिंपळाच्या झाडाच्या सर्वात खालच्या फांदीवर बसलेला असतो.

त्याला ती विचारते, का रे बाबा, इथे कसा?

तो म्हणतो, अगं सखू, मला पावभाजी खायची आहे.

ती विचार करते, या ठोंब्याला आता रात्रीची पावभाजी कुठून आणून देणार!

ती त्याला सांगते, बाबा रे, तुझे पावभाजी खायचे दिवस गेले. आता तू काही खायचं प्यायचं नाही

तर हे ऐकून तो एकदम sad छोटासा चेहरा करतो.

मग तिला त्याची दया येते, बिचारा आपलाच मित्र आहे – होता… तर आता आपण त्याची मदत कशी करू शकतो.

मग ती म्हणते, चल तू आत्ता ये माझ्याबरोबर… आपण बस स्टँड वरच्या रात्री उशिरा चालू असलेल्या टपरीवर जाऊन चहा पिऊ, अंडा भुर्जी खाऊ.

तो एकदम खुश होतो! चल म्हणतो, लगेच चल

मग ते निघणार असतात तर त्याला कळतं कि तो भूत आहे, त्याला पिंपळाच्या झाडावरून निघता येणार नाही… he is bound to it.

आता झाली ना पंचाईत.

पावभाजी राहिली लांब, साधा cutting चहा पण नशिबी नाही अशी त्याची परिस्थिती असते.

पण सखू उगाच ऐकून घेणाऱ्यांपैकी नसते.

ती म्हणते बास, आता तुला बस स्टँड वर घेऊन जाणार म्हणजे जाणार. ती एक idea करते.

ती पण त्या पिंपळाच्या झाडावर चढते, आणि वरची एक लहानशी फांदी तोडते. अजून 2-4 फांद्या तोडते. त्या बांधून एक bundle तयार करते आणि खालच्या फांदीवर येते.

तिथे येऊन त्याला म्हणते, आता बस या bundle वर.

तिचा मित्र त्यावर बसतो, आणि ते bundle आणि त्यावर बसलेला तो तिचा मित्र हे सखू उचलते आणि झाडावरून उतरते.

आता हे फांदी+भूत घेऊन सखू बस स्टँड वर येते, चहा आणि अंडा भुर्जीची ऑर्डर देते, दोघे ती ते सगळं तयार होईपर्यंत गप्पा मारतात.. त्या दोघांना बघून त्या अंडा-गाडीवल्याची घाबरगुंडी उडालेली असते.

पण कसाबसा तो स्वतःला आवरतो आणि चहा न भुर्जी बनवतो.

दोघे ते खातात, म्हणजे ती खाते, तो भूत असल्याने सगळं त्याच्यातून खाली जमिनीवर पडतं. पण सखू त्याच्याबरोबर येते आणि त्याला युक्तीने झाडावरून खाली आणून फिरवून आणते म्हणून तो खुश असतो.

मग सखू त्याला परत पिंपळाच्या झाडावर पोचवले आणि घरी येऊन छान झोपून जाते!

~ कल्पक

Climate Change and Planned Obsolescence

A group of the leading electric bulb manufacturers from Europe and the United States got together and founded the Phoebus Cartel on 15 January 1925.

The Phoebus cartel was an oligopoly that controlled the manufacture and sale of incandescent light bulbs. They defined and agreed upon market territories, no-compete agreements, and lowered the useful life of incandescent bulbs. The average life of incandescent bulbs then was 2,500 hours. The Cartel agreed to reduce the life to 1,000 hours.

This allowed the manufacturers to raise prices without fear of competition. This Cartel has been described as a “classic example of planned obsolescence”.

From Wikipedia: In economics and industrial design, planned obsolescence (also called built-in obsolescence or premature obsolescence) is a policy of planning or designing a product with an artificially limited useful life or a purposely frail design, so that it becomes obsolete after a certain pre-determined period of time upon which it decrementally functions or suddenly ceases to function, or might be perceived as unfashionable.

We have gotten used to changing our mobiles phones every 2-3 years.

We change our refrigerators and washing machines every 5-7 years.

We change our cars in 10-15 years.

We don’t refill our pens. We buy new ones.

Every year, sports teams get newly designed outfits so their fans buy new merchandise for every season.

Even mattresses, curtains, other upholstery are designed for a maximum of a 10-year use.

Nonstick cookware be ones useless in 3 years. Cast iron cookware lasts generations.

Unless things go bad, or wear out, how will we buy new stuff?

Imagine a customer becoming a repeat customer only a few times in years and decades! In less populated countries, it is even worse! Of course we want things to become useless as early as possible.

Planned obsolescence is a carefully crafted business strategy now. Without it, there’s no assured repeat business. Without repeat business, minor “upgrades” that really don’t do much, money won’t flow in.

The problem is so widespread that we are unable to repair most of the electronic items we own. Bringing legislation for the Electronics right to repair is an actual thing.

The planned obsolescence strategy encourages regular consumption. But there’s a massive impact beyond consumerism, deliberate quality degradation — the environment.

Serious climate change remedies simply cannot work unless we kill planned obsolescence.

Carbon credits is a poor substitute.

A massive economic redesign is what we need. Consumption has to change.

Planned obsolescence has to go.

~ Kalpak

What’s calling?

Today, in the capitalism-influenced mindset, entrepreneurship and financial independence has become a more influential and respectable calling (i.e. the giver of meaning and purpose to life), than parenthood.

Is it really?

Many people today frown upon parenthood as a calling. It doesn’t provide meaning to their lives. It’s strange.

All grooming of the young workforce is now the responsibility of the corporate world.

Discipline, focus, determination, values, ethics, standing up for what’s right, everything that used to be (or should be) done by parenting and schooling is handled in Corporate Trainings today.

~ KalpaK

Consciousness

What is Consciousness? Is it fixed for every human being? Is it the same as soul? If non-human living beings don’t have a soul, how is the soul different from Consciousness? Where does Consciousness come from in a new living being, and what happens to the Consciousness after death?

An interesting discussion last week triggered these questions, and the following thoughts occurred to me. Here’s an attempt to answer the above questions.

I’ll draw from various concepts/theories like reincarnation, karma, and so on. Maybe I’m wrong in my understanding, and I’d welcome another, more enlightened perspective. This is just my take on things.

According to Hinduism, the Ultimate Goal of a soul is to merge with the Supreme Consciousness or Parmatma. Now, here I see an individual soul (of a tree, animal, bird, or human being) as a smaller “quantity” of consciousness. Maybe less evolved as well. The Supreme Consciousness is all-pervading in the universe, depicted in mythology as Vishnu on Sheshnaag.

Now, until this final, grand merger happens, the smaller/lesser consciousness in say, a human, experiences life, acts i.e. undergoes Karma and experiences the consequences, i.e. karma-phala. After death, this small consciousness is due for another birth depending on how the Karma algorithm decides it’s next life. The karma algorithm “judges” what next life for this small consciousness could be.

Now, here we have some problem. If there was one “unit” of soul per human being, and this soul of one person after death immediately went into a new person, then the total number of humans must be constant. But we know this not true. There are more people today than earlier. Where did that consciousness come from? From other life forms. Arguably, there are more animals and life forms also than earlier.

So, the consciousness has to be created for these new people and living beings somehow and somewhere.

Now, all life forms are conscious. So, after death, whose consciousness goes where could be decided by the karma algorithm. After a living being dies, it’s consciousness “goes to” or merges with the “central store” of consciousness. From here, when it’s time, some consciousness goes into a new living being. It could be the same amount of consciousness, or a part of it. So, therefore, it could go into another person, or animal, or plant, or anything conscious.

Therefore, what we call “next life” or reincarnation, is basically transfer of consciousness. The time, manner, place of this transfer is not instantaneous. So, it doesn’t HAVE to be that this transfer should happen right after the death of a living being. It could be quick, or even after decades and centuries.

Now, say after a person dies, all of his consciousness or a very large proportion of it goes into another person. Not any animal or other life form. If this happens, this new person may have past-life memories. Normally this does not happen, because any person’s consciousness is a mix of many, many past others’ in different proportions, including other life forms. So, the past-life remembrance aspect is just too vague and insufficient to carry any meaning. Just as you don’t exactly care or know which money is your money in the Bank (does it matter, as long as you have the money?)

This thought struck me last week when dealing with some inquisitive questioning from some German friends.

Today, there are studies that are trying figure out what consciousness is. One MIT scientist thinks it’s a fourth state of matter, after solid, liquid, and gaseous: This Physicist Says Consciousness Could Be a New State of Matter

We already know that there is much matter in the universe that unknown and unaccounted for (Dark matter – Wikipedia). Who knows how much will be accounted for by Consciousness.

Hope this perspective gives some nice food for thought.

~कल्पक

#DiwaliEnlightenment

Caste and the Work-Life Balance

Q: Where could India be if there were no castes?

It is generally assumed that India would be much better off without castes. The caste system takes a lot of blame for bringing India to “where it is” — whatever that means.

I am not too convinced.

Humans are social beings. They naturally form tribes consisting of “people like themselves.” Entry into these tribes has many criteria — birth, profession, belief in a type of God, and so on. Such tribes are not unique to Hinduism or India. The various Churches are also an example of such a tribe. People differ in their opinions and form groups based on their viewpoint and interpretation. Differing opinions from the agreed viewpoint of the group are discouraged and can result in ostracism in extreme cases.

One or the other way, humans will form tribes of their own based on various factors. The caste system originated from the profession people followed. The Varna system consisted of:

  • the intellectual or scholarly class of Brahmins,
  • the warrior or protector class of Kshatriyas,
  • the business or merchant class of Vaishyas, and
  • the service or labour class of Shudras.

The caste system is considered a corrupted version of the Varna system where birth replaced ability. Nepotism set in.

But it brings an interesting perspective to what we think of our own lives today. We are looking for work-life balance, whatever that means. But if in the olden days, people had their identities created on the basis of their work or role in society, it meant their work was their life. There was no such thing as work-life balance. Their work was their life and identity.

Today, young Indians are still identifying themselves socially from castes i.e. the jobs their ancestors did. But there is a disconnect somewhere because the present generation is doing things totally unrelated to their “ancestral caste” and also refusing to accept a new, modern day “caste” based on what they’re doing today. The pride that people show or feel in their castes today is baseless. The caste is just something that their forefathers did! What does it mean to most of us today if we’re working in software, or medicine, or teaching, or law, or totally different businesses than the traditional ones?!

It is ironic and tragic that today we’re struggling to strike a work-life balance, when our ancestors were so proud of and connected to what they did that they BASED THEIR ENTIRE IDENTITY around their work! OUR WORK SEEMS TO HAVE NOTHING TO DO WITH OUR LIFE and many of us are mostly waiting for weekends to connect to their “life”!

It’s something to really think about, and spend some non-trivial amount of time on self-introspection!

So, tribes are the very fundamental and instinctual part of what makes us human. Call them tribes, or castes, or by any other name. Humans. Will. Form. Groups.

However, work and careers chosen today with care, with passion, with pride, will eliminate the concept of work-life balance problem like it did many many years ago for our ancestors. Then India will be back on track to its former glory.

This post came about as a Quora answer. I put in some thoughts that have been on my mind for quite some time there, so should become a blog post as always! 😉

~ KalpaK

संघर्षाची कौशल्ये with conscience!

कृष्णा करता दुष्कर्मी किंवा इतररित्या अतिरेकी पात्रांबरोबर लढणे आणि त्यांना मारणे शक्य होते?

रामा करता?

गणपति करता?

इतर देवांकरता?

उत्तर ‘हो’ आहे ना?

याचा अर्थ, जे काही शस्त्रप्रयोग पुराणकथेतील “व्हिलन” करत होते, तेच किंवा त्यापेक्षा अधिक परिणामी शस्त्रप्रयोग पुराणकथेतील “हिरो” करू शकत होते.

म्हणजे आजच्या काळात, संघर्षाची साधने – आयुधं – पैसा, संघटन-कौशल्य, चुणचुणीतपणा, स्पष्टवक्तेपणा, तंत्रज्ञानाची खरी आणि सखोल समज, कायद्याची समज, कल्पकता, आणि इतर कौशल्य, ही आहेत. आणि ती साधने जर कोणी विवेकशून्यपणे वापरत असेल, तर तीच आयुधं निपुणतेने वापरायला शिकणे आणि विवेकासहित वापरून संघर्ष करणे हे आपले कर्तव्य नाही का? की “आम्ही त्यातले नाही! तसंच वागलं तर माझ्यात आणि त्याच्यात काय फरक राहिला?” असे म्हणून मैदान सोडून पळण्याचीच शिकवण घेऊन बसलोय आपण? जर अर्जुन म्हणाला असता (म्हणालाच होता ना!) कि “नाही नाही, मी शस्त्र हातात घेणार नाही!” आणि तसं खरंच करून बसला असता तर काय झालं असतं?

त्यामुळे, “आम्ही तसं करत नाही!” हे म्हणण्यापेक्षा “आम्ही तेच आमच्यारितीने, विवेकबुद्धीसह करून दाखवू शकतो!” यात जो गौरव असेल तर तो मिळवण्यात खरा आनंद आहे, आणि यश आहे.

अर्थात, हे वागणे ‘जशास तसे’ नक्कीच नाही!!

प्रोफेसर डम्बलडोरबद्दल ‘हॅरी पॉटर’ मध्ये म्हटले आहे:

McGonagall: But you’re different. Everyone knows you’re the only one You-Know- oh, all right, Voldemort, was frightened of.

Dumbledore: You flatter me. Voldemort had powers I will never have.

McGonagall: Only because you’re too – well – noble to use them.

It is not just about Competence… but also about Character! And vice versa! Both are necessary. One without the other is quite useless!

Edit: Mark Manson has written a nice article on this topic. The last part of this article emphasizes ‘being an ethical asshole.’ WHY BEING AN ASSHOLE CAN BE A VALUABLE LIFE SKILL.

So, anywhere in your personal or professional lives, if you are unwilling to indulge in some seemingly-dubious “situation” because of your “always being on high moral ground” stand, you’re playing a losing game. Higher moral ground is just as important as competence! You need to learn to counter the dubious skills with other skills, and use them as needed!

Competence With Character is necessary! Focus on both!

Train your conscience to be louder, by listening to it.

Positive aggression, conviction in the goals and values to select the means used to achieve those goals, determination, and nobility in behaviour are amazing skills to have!
~ KalpaK

Money and Nature – The give and the take of It

This image is doing the rounds on WhatsApp.

And like usual, some discussions on the unfairness of the corporate world (You are needed only as long as your work is needed by the company. Once the need is over, no matter how good or bad you are, you will be hear a goodbye, oh-this-world-is-a-mess, this-rat-race-is-so-frustrating), and such discussions have opened up on a few of my WhatsApp groups.

And as usual, I find this extremely interesting food for thought.

So… here is a blog post for it! 🙂

So first thoughts come from Ayn Rand. In Francisco d’Anconia’s speech from Atlas Shrugged you have this:

So you think that money is the root of all evil? Have you ever asked what is the root of money? Money is a tool of exchange, which can’t exist unless there are goods produced and men able to produce them. Money is the material shape of the principle that men who wish to deal with one another must deal by trade and give value for value. Money is not the tool of the moochers, who claim your product by tears, or of the looters, who take it from you by force. Money is made possible only by the men who produce. Is this what you consider evil?”

I will leave the rest of speech and it’s compelling viewpoints to the eager reader. May you follow the above link and read Atlas Shrugged some time.Here I’m extending the view on this topic to another direction.

Money is a tool of exchange. There’s no doubt about this.

Now, is it an illusion? No. It is a creation of the human mind. Money is an abstraction created by the human mind. An abstraction is not an illusion. See this article for more.

An abstraction is an expression of a concept or an idea. An illusion is a false belief in an idea or its effectiveness.

In money, mankind has created and evolved a tool to “measure” effort or creativity and tried to give “value” to these uniquely human attributes.

A Sachin Tendulkar or a Roger Federer or a Tom Cruise or a Christopher Nolan gives consistent value and commands huge amounts of money for it. An Albert Einstein gives value in that the whole of humanity benefits from a new viewpoint, and he earns the respect of generations of thinkers and scientists. An engineer commands value by giving tools that solve some problem for his customer. Same is the case for any professional. Competency, consistency, trust in giving value brings in more value and thus more money, and other tangible and intangible benefits.

And success is always only about this: how can you give value to others?

If you can imagine it, articulate it, do it, and repeat it for someone, you can create value for someone.

It is as simple and as difficult as that.

Okay. So now that being established, what is the human mind that envisioned a concept of exchange of value? The human brain certainly is a product of nature. About the mind, there are good videos by people like Sadhguru Jaggi Vasudev and other thinkers and explorers who will take us on an interesting, worthy, and life-long journey of exploring the depths of the human mind. They will stress on the fact that the brain is not the mind. But I digress. The human mind is certainly “natural” so far as this blog post is concerned.

So, the mind that created money is certainly natural. So, the ‘creator’ of money is natural. The source that thought up this concept that exchange should be fair, is natural.

Now, let us look at how nature herself deals with exchange.

Let’s take the example of a bird. A bird would eat a fruit of a tree, and maybe spread the seeds of the tree “in return”. So there is some mutual benefit, although it isn’t intended. Well, you could argue that it is by design… Sure, but I don’t want to debate that. The point is that this exchange is certainly not 1:1. If a bird eats a fruit from a tree, it doesn’t always give back to that tree by spreading its seeds, or by becoming fertilizer for that specific tree after the bird dies – most likely other tree(s) would benefit from our bird. Other trees would benefit from other birds. Similarly, a tiger doesn’t give back or compensate something of value to a deer or rabbit, in return for its life. Insects that take nectar do pollinate the flowers but not always of the same type of plant. Nature has a complex food chain, which is basically a mechanism of exchange of energy. Nature does have its cycle, but it is not a 1:1 exchange.

As another proverb goes…

However, the exchange was not between the same entities! The fish that got ate did not later eat the ants.

Here is the crucial difference, and hence the seeming unnaturalness of money! Money is almost always exchange of value between the same and exact giver and taker. The entities could be people, organisations, whatever. But the one who gets, gives to the giver. Nature does not exchange between the same entities. There is a cycle, but the taker is not a giver right away. A taker takes from one, but gives to another. The giver gets from a third…

Speaking of unnaturalness, humans take great efforts to do things unnaturally. It is natural to shit in your pants. It is natural to not brush your teeth. It is natural to not grow your food and cook it before eating.

Humanity’s greatest ability is to go for the unnatural.

So, to bring the original topic into perspective, how could we have a lesser stressful exchange medium. How could my friends who seem insecure about money be reassured?

Money seems to pinch us in many uncomfortable ways. Those of us who “get” things, and read “Rich Dad, Poor Dad” often say that the perspective about money needs to be changed. So, what would be an alternate and more ‘holistic’ medium of creating and exchanging value?

So, bringing back Nature into the picture, how would a more “natural” transaction between humans look like?

Think, I say to myself… Think. Main idea as we saw above is that such a transaction cannot be 1:1.

Which means… a person gives to someone, but does not expect anything back from the same guy. If he gets something from that guy, great! If not, yeah, well, there will be someone else who’ll give.

Oh my Krishna! Sounds familiar?

Yo, my dear people who read this blog! It has been staring at us right in the face all this time!

So, the vision for exchange of value will evolve. “Money” will evolve.

We will work out a better way for this. We will have a better means of exchange… at least at how we look at exchange. The Hawala transaction of value is actually close to how Nature exchanges energy. But will it eventually be formalized into the mainstream economy? Time will tell. It is certainly closer to how Nature works. You will get your due, just the time and manner is not fixed. Oh wait! Now does this sound familiar? Yes! The spiritual principle of Karma where intent and actions of an individual (cause) influence the future of that individual (effect). You will get your dues.

When you think of exchange, of giving in return for getting… and not balance it all the time, nature will kick in. It has to! It is natural law.

There’s no doubt that the concept of exchange is fully Natural. There cannot be only taking. There cannot be only giving.
© Kalpak Nikumbh

What’s smarter?

Q: Are people who betray, lie, and cheat considered to be smarter than average, as these acts require careful planning and execution over a period of time?

Let’s get a few things out of the way.

Honesty is usually the best policy. If people are offended by honesty or truth or facts, it is a BIG indication of their values.

Intelligent people know what to lie about, and what to be honest about. Intelligence is awareness of consequences. So, what to be honest about, is a decision to be made.

“You can fool all the people some of the time, and some of the people all the time, but you cannot fool all the people all the time.”
~ Abraham Lincoln

Now coming to the question: lying, cheating requires careful planning and execution over a period of time. Well… making anything requires careful planning and execution… from making a clay pot to the most sophisticated engine or processor or software.

The only difference is: whether there’s presence or absence of fear and insecurity.

In general, if you aren’t paranoid about discovery of what you’ve been doing, i.e. you aren’t paranoid about keeping privacy about your actions, you don’t have to worry about betrayal, lying or cheating. This is goddamn difficult.

People are so taken up by “getting credit” for their ideas and work, they get entangled into secrecy and privacy. These situations are fertile grounds for betrayal. Alright, not always. Sometimes people would want to put out an idea, but would not want it traced back to them! Accountability is indeed a problem for some. Again… shows the values of the person. But we digress.

Back to the topic: Transparency is what a betrayer, liar, and cheat is most afraid of.

The simplest way to deal with any hint of lies, gossip, cheating is to make things transparent. It scares the shit out of people.

And do not underestimate the intelligence required to do this. Usually, people who lie, cheat, betray, are not doing it for some malevolent reasons, they are hiding things to save their own skin, because they’ll be embarrassed about the truth. And it will require your entire gamut of skills: kindness, patience, empathy, compassion, encouragement, straightforwardness, and more to deal with that situation.

It takes a holistic level of intelligence to handle things so that things get done without betrayal, lies, and cheating. It’s massively complex ― far beyond the scale of intelligence required in cheating, conniving, and such ― to get things done with strong values.

So from that perspective, getting things done by lying, cheating, and betrayal is the easy way out… certainly not the smart way out.

Who wants to do the messy work of defining values, spending time to think “what could be a better way than this?”, dealing with conflicting aspirations of people, and so on. All this needs so much work… and intelligence!

Be Interested

What problems did you solve today?

Who thanked you for a favour today?

Who got something from you better than they expected?

Who enjoyed an interesting discussion with you? Where you lost track of time! Where they said “We should do this again!” today?

Has it been too many days since such a thing happened to you? Better get up and create such events. Study, practice, get better… so that you are able to contribute better. By definition, having such words expressed by someone means you are doing something remarkable. Someone remarked, right? You rock, dude! You go, girl!!

So, now you know what needs to be done… forever… as long as you are alive. Tirelessly. You’ve found the purpose of life. There’s nothing more than this. Really. Just go and bring stuff – software, algorithms, art, blogs, paintings, stories, user manuals, songs, novels, give voice to someone’s work so it isn’t lost, think of better rules, better ways of doing something, insights for others to get better – anything, just bring something of value out into the world. Just anything.

“The pursuit of purpose, in my experience, is found only in individuals who are overly self-centered. Sometimes I joke that the search for purpose in life is God’s punishment for those who care more about themselves than about others. Seek out others. Try to help them. It doesn’t have to be a lot of people, just a few will do. Listen to them. Interact. Take their thoughts and concerns seriously. Be part of a larger community. It’s remarkable how the deep philosophical and bothersome “search for meaning in life” fades and itself becomes meaningless when you do this.” ~ Richard Muller, physicist, author of ‘Now – The Physics of Time’

The whole argument about “following your passion” is sufficiently vague to put people into an inferiority complex about themselves – if they hint or admit that they are not following their passion.

Developing the discipline to be skillful enough by hard work, consistency, grit, persistence is ‘passion’. Passion is an outcome! The Follow Your Passion mindset reverses this fact… it says that you will work hard, be consistent, show grit and persistence, and not give up in face of setbacks and adversity if you are passionate. Bullshit. Passion is not the cause!

People who claim they are passionate about something from a young age actually forget something very important: that they were encouraged, disciplined, coaxed, bribed or even shamed for not being sincere enough, to be good at something consistently by teachers or parents or someone who took responsibility. These people made sure that the young person did it… and kept doing it… and got better at it. And now these people say, “I am passionate about XYZ. I do not know anything else I would have done in my life!”

That is how the world works – be interested in it. It works both ways! You will not learn effectively if you aren’t interested. And then how can you do something well if you aren’t interested in using what you have learnt?

So, now you might ask, “When do the people to whom I give my time, attention, interest, give something to me back?”
Answer: In their own time. Those who know you are giving them value, will find ways to give you what you value. Sometimes, it comes back through other ways – like opportunities. And those who cannot bear your giving, who in their minds know they are a ‘sink’ in your life, will grow more and more insecure. There will come a time when it stops working out. Resources run out… patience runs out. There is a difference between a giver who knows how to receive, and a taker who only is a drain on your time and resources.

Then such questions about ‘purpose’, ‘meaning of life’, ‘finding your passion’ become worthless.
Oh… this does not apply to bills! Pay your bills on time, and ask for your bills to be paid in time. I do not imply that you blindly trust someone.
Go on.

“The best way to predict the future is to invent it.” ~ Alan Kay, computer scientist

~ Kalpak